You may kiss the bride

"Sweety, are you sure you put some chapstick on them lips?"
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I don't know how I'll feel about this subject in a year or so but for now here are my thoughts.

Before we get too much into this, lets define what type of kissing I'm on about. I'm not talking about that innocent peck on the cheek you'd give your mum, or kissing a fellow believer I mean Passionate...Premarital kissing. Kissing someone that isn't your spouse in a way that is weird and inappropriate to how you'd kiss your siblings (or other). It's important for me to state that this is a topic about passionate kissing or as I like to call it "Couple Kissing".
But what is really the point of such - or better yet what are the motives. Lets find the definition of "kissing"

1."kiss - the act of caressing with the lips (or an instance thereof)" princeton education

2."A kiss is the act of pressing one's lips against the body of another. Cultural connotations of kissing vary widely. A kiss may be used to express sentiments of love, passion, affection, respect, greeting, friendship, and good luck, among many others. ..."    wikipedia 

3."To engage in mutual touching or caressing with the lips." free dictionary

4. "to touch or press with the lips slightly pursed, and then often to part them and to emit a smacking sound, in an expression of affection, love, greeting, reverence, etc.: He kissed his son on the cheek." dictionary.com
(seems pretty intense to me for unmarried folk.) 


Is there a reason the bishop/pastor/priest always says -"You may now kiss the bride" Assuming the bride and groom haven't done that yet? I think premarital kissing is of part of sex, in a sense the it's part of a sexual nature. 
I think that the key is that these actions are included under the heading of "sexual immorality."
I think that to say that kissing is not prohibited in the bible is a bit of a weak argument - That's like me smashing someone's windows and saying it's not in the bible, so I can do it...Well of course it's not in the bible, but it comes under the category of vengeance and anger and stuff (not good btw) , that's exactly how I see kissing. It comes under the category of sex, as is smashing someone's window under the category of foolishness... Get it? (I'm the worst for examples lol) The bible doesn't go through everything that you shouldn't do like do but it does given more than enough, examples, advice, and JESUS to show you that some things (even if they are accepted in this modern day life) aren't as God wants it to be

In Holland, we kiss each other on the cheek when greeting or saying goodbye to each other, as do the French. In Europe kissing is a common form of greeting among friends. So kissing is not a sin.The real question is motive. What are the motives and thoughts behind the kiss? There are different degrees of kissing. Jesus kissed his disciples. We kiss our family members, however you wouldn't greet your brothers, sisters or fellow believers with the same type of kiss you would your spouse - that's yucky!

Second, the kind of kissing Christians are to engage in with non-spouses is “holy kissing.” To be holy means to be  set apart, different. As Christians are we not to be 'set apart' or 'different' from what the Heathen do?  We are called to be a holy nation, and so even the way we kiss is also to be holy.
 
Being able to save your first kiss till your wedding day is probably one of the best gift anyone will get as their wedding present. For me it's a kiss too late - but since coming to Christ I know that I'm a whole new creation so He's given me the chance to start again, so is it therefore it's safe to assume that I've been un-kissed? Nope. I can't do anything about what has happened and but I can with the grace of God do something about the future. I realise that I want to be completely holy and pure before my God and before the man He has chosen for me. I have always intended for my first kiss to be at the altar, I thought such thing was a myth... but  it isn't, it's by grace of God and not just by my own willpower. 

It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honourable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5


But this is my opinion, What are your views on this? Do you agree or disagree?

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