I have often been told that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. With 'People' magazine crowning its most beautiful woman in the world each year, I really do wonder how true that phrase is in Hollywood. Some years back, when I used to watch 'America's Next Top Model', ( a TV show about women competing to win the Top Model title and a cash prize) there was one thing that Tyra Banks said (the host/supermodel) that always struck me and that was "Be Yourself". Tyra Banks was big on personalities, so much so, that she held this to having the same importance as actually being skillful and talented. Girls had been eliminated from the competition for having 'no personality' (translate: not bubbly enough). This felt extremely contradictory because as soon as the girls had passed the third or fourth round, they'd be rushed to change their appearance. Their hair would be done up, their teeth 'fixed' up, all to the point where some of them were almost unrecognisable. Understandably, models very often have to mold themselves to what is 'hot' in the industry, and going through these transformation proved how much they wanted to be there. Refusing to undergo a Make-Over was as good as an elimination from the competition. I think what the producers/judges were really saying was 'be yourself but do that within these boundaries that we give you'. Subsequently you had girls (some of them barely out of their teenage years) confused and scared about how to act when they were in the judging room. On one hand they were encouraged (well forced) to show their personalities, but on the other they had to do it as 'pretty' as possible. So if you snort whilst laughing, do it muted... If you have a gap in your teeth. Fix it.
As much as I loathe what magazines like 'People' Mag does, I commend them. No really I do. Of course, create a magazine a brandish a celebrity as the most beautiful/hottest and give it to an already perishing generation where almost half of the population is suffering from low self esteem, thereby boosting an already self absorbed ego of a celebrity! It is absolutely the right thing to do. But I must be careful not to give all the credit to beauty magazines because after all they're only adding fuel to the fire the public have already started. As long as we have roamed the Earth, our quest for perfection has sat heavily on our backs. What magazines like 'People' do is, they embody everything that we want put it on an unobtainable pedestal. They have to make revenue somehow right? You see what 'People' magazine should do is re-evaluate their title and rating system (who rates these things anyway?) specifically for Hollyweird. So that it reads 'Hollywood's Most Beautiful' or 'Pop Entertainment's Most Beautiful At Present' or something. Also I'm guessing they're judging by superficial means only i.e looks, power, influence etc. 'K' (From Yahoo! Commentary) says: "If you asked 25 different people who the most beautiful woman in the world is, you'd probably get 25 different answers because everyone has a different idea of what makes someone beautiful. I think it's quite destructive to have this kind of 'public competition' like one of these women is more attractive than the others. What kind of message does this teach our daughters?"
Beauty is so much more than what we accredit it to. We forget that beauty is not about how rich you are or how many awards you can bag. I'm sure the person granted the award this year has a nice personality to go with that pretty face but it's a smack in the face for the rest of the world to know that one particular person has been chosen to fill the 'Most Beautiful' role when there millions upon millions of women that can surely surpass her, if based on a superficial level. Because beautiful is you, you are beautiful and there is no magazine on Earth that should tell you otherwise. Make your own standards of beauty and never allow anyone else to tell you otherwise. You were created for a purpose, God the creator made you the way you are and my goodness, if He can create the universe and all that is in it, do you not think He knew what He was doing when He created you? Self esteem for me is no longer about being content with who I am but it is being content with who I know God created me to be, and the latter is much more sustainable. Since feelings come and go, and I may not be feeling beautiful all the time, I can turn to God who will reassure me that I am just the way I am meant to be and His approval of my beauty is far more important than any magazine, because beauty is not in the eye of the beholder, but rather it is in the power of God.
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised". Proverbs 31:30